"None," the police officer in charge reported to my student.
That was the answer to how many instances of rape of males and boys had been reported in the city (it happened to be Boston, where I was teaching at the time) in the previous year.
More Vicious Than Rape
I don't exactly consider myself a feminist, but this is an issue about which I can easily get enraged. Yesyesyes, this article talks about male rape (and I have included the link to Susan Estrich's article because I printed 2 lines from it.)
However, the important article is the one below it titled "More Vicious Than Rape". Yes, it's gawdawful. However, it's important that you read it because it is more important than the one on male rape.
Women all over the world are being used for terrible sexual purposes. Either as weapons in war, or by having their genitals scraped away with broken glass or rusty metal--with no anesthesia--by the muslims (when they are not having acid thrown in their faces, or burned in suttee, or as victims of an 'honor killing'--or just thrown away in China), woman are treated like garbage all over the world. This must be addressed before we even get to the subject of male rape.
Not only are the numbers SO entirely disproportionate, but the size and strength differential of men vs. women is enormous. In so many societies, woman also have no social power with which to deal with this. At least, with a man--where so often these rapes happen in prison--a relatively fair fight could be had, one-on-one. With a woman, she often must face a foe who weighs a hundred pounds more than she does. Men that rape women are deliberately picking on someone weaker and smaller than themselves--and it's time someone got serious about stopping it.
And who is it that must get serious about it? It's the MEN. I have NEVER heard a man speak out against the rape of women. Never.
In all my 48 years, never have I heard ONE man say it is wrong. Most especially never have I heard a man say it to other men--in a group of only men. In EVERY SINGLE class I had in school, in which the subject was violence against women, there was always a guy who jumped up--and before a single sentence could be uttered on our behalf--he'd say "well, um, well um, what about women who hit men, huh, huhh?" And then everyone would groan and the round-robin would start and the subject would be nullified--as if what he said evened things out and made them commensurate.
NOT ONE MAN EVER STOOD UP AND SAID "Raping women is wrong, it's weak, and I deplore it"--and then shut his mouth and sat down!
Even all the fine men I know on the Internet--and I know some good ones--have never said it, either. The subject hasn't always come up, but with the spate of continual 'honor' killings, rapes, and murders of the women who are accosted by muslims, or who walk around Europe uncovered, there has been plenty of opportunity for them to comment.
It is men that have the power--and men listen to other men. It's time MEN spoke out against rape; that may give us gals a little breathing room in which to consider how they'd feel if it happened to them.