Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Leftists' Desire To Be Loved Is Their Achilles' Heel

Leftists' Desire To Be Loved Is Their Achilles' Heel

I have spent a good part of my life trying to understand people I disagree with, whether on the right or the left, whether members of my own religion or of other religions or of no religion.

In particular, I have wanted to understand people who hold leftist positions. Many people who hold them are personally decent, some very much so -- yet they hold positions that I believe increase cruelty (e.g., advocating withdrawal from Iraq); increase criminality (e.g., more lenient attitudes toward punishing criminals); hasten the decline of Western society (e.g., pushing multiculturalism); and undermine liberty (e.g., expanding government, passing more and more laws, taking away ever larger percentages of citizens' money).

They also panic easily (e.g., heterosexual AIDS in America, carbon dioxide emissions leading to global catastrophe); and the further left one goes, the more morally confused they are (e.g., the inability to label the Soviet Union an "evil empire"; the exaggeration of America's flaws -- it is sexist, imperialist, racist, homophobic -- and the undervaluing of its virtues).

Why is this? Why do so many good people hold bad positions?

There are many reasons. I believe that naivete about human nature and about evil heads the list. But high up there as an explanation of liberal and leftist thinking is the desire to be loved.All normal people want to be loved -- and that is a very good thing when the love is sought from good people with whom we have close relationships.

But many people want to be loved by far more than friends and relatives. For example, most celebrities ache for the love of the public, and while that is a psychological problem for them -- since the love of the public is not personally fulfilling and one then craves it more and more -- the yearning of celebrities for an adoring public has no negative impact on society.

The yearning to be loved becomes a major problem, however, in most other instances. It becomes a problem, for example, when in raising children parents are guided by a desire to be loved by them. Parents cannot properly raise a child if they are unwilling to be disliked, even occasionally hated, by their child.

Sometimes what we have to do to raise a good child means not being loved at that moment (or even for extended periods over the course of years). That is one of the major reasons it is so difficult to raise children.The liberal view of child-rearing over the last generation or two has placed love well above discipline, let alone punishment. The expressed reason is never that the punished child will not love the parent, but it is probably a factor in some liberal parents' mode of child-rearing.

But there are two areas where liberals do express a yearning to be loved, and these have macro, indeed, global, ramifications. The most dangerous one is the liberal desire for their country to be loved.



I run into this time and time again at DU. The Democrats/Leftists there are forever lamenting that America is not 'loved' enough, that we now have the 'most hated President' and are the 'most hated nation', in the world.

John Edwards and the other Dem presidential candidates speak of 'getting our moral authority', our 'respect', our 'reputation around the world' back--but they are all speaking of the desire to be loved. Prager has hit the nail on the head.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

Loved, sort of like Mark Foley and Senator Larry Craig...

Why dont all of you guys just come out of the closet for crying out loud. This is America!

2:39 AM  
Blogger The Merry Widow said...

It's all touchy-feely, feel good, can't we all just get along fluff!
There is no substance, which is my disagreement with them. They follow all these programs and devices that SOUND good, but are impractical disasters.
The Law of Unintended Consequences takes over and they are flummoxed. "How can this be? How could it happen? What went wrong? Let's throw more money at it, that's the problem, we aren't 'commited' enough!"
Practicality and logic are missing because it's all emotional!
Good morning, G*D bless and Maranatha!

BTW-Sent you the info you 'lost'!

3:44 AM  
Blogger VerityINK said...

ANON.--What does a the choice of sexual partners (or one man's personal failings)have to do with a party-wide ideology and underlaying motivation--such as the desire to be 'loved' by the world over?

Prager is not talking about a personal sexual choice for physical gratification--he is talking about placing the desire for approval above what works, what is common sense, and what are better, more life-sustaining, motives.

If you're talking about the sexual indecretions of a man or two that happens to belong to the GOP party, then you should LOVE men forged in the same mold as Bill Clinton, Barney Frank, and Gerry Eastman Studds.

3:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

DONAL you know what the deal is with Anon, when you have NO argument, insult! Prager hit a 500 ft. homerun with this article. It was one of his best in a long time.


2:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello friends

There are two problems with us wanting so much to be loved by the "world "

The Arabs don't know what love is so we cannot buy from them this product for any money.

The Eueopeans cannot love us because they live and die on hate especially of each other but enough for us too.

They are so jealous at us that they pee in their pants with rage.

So what is this MESHUGAS going through hoops and loops to be loved?

We are a big nation . Plenty to love right here.

So let me be the first to tell that I love you.

And we will take it from there.


8:20 PM  
Blogger VerityINK said...

Excellent post, sis! Catsala just said, behind me here, "Batya says the most amazing things!" (I have told her we have always known that...)

8:41 PM  
Blogger Russet Shadows said...

Prager is far more correct than he knows. As a single guy, I've seen an epidemic of "wussy men", and by that I mean men who desire to seek women's approval. By setting this as their goal, they become indecisive and unoriginal beings who shower the objects of their affection with gifts and do anything they are asked.

Think about that. These weak men are chasing women the way that leftists are courting foreign opinion. Both of them have no self-confidence of their own and seek to obtain it from others. Both derive their sense of well-being from being liked by others.

The weak man actually repulses women.
The weak nation repulses the admirers it courts.

Both are self-hating, unhappy messes that no-one wants to be around.

5:44 PM  

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